So I had the following conversation with my 8-year-old niece C the other day. She sprung it on me out of the blue, as kids seem to do. It was at the supper table with other family members listening.
Niece: Do you think your kids will know that you're not their real mom?
Me (I said everything gently): But I will be their real mom.
Niece: No, like their real mom.
Me (extending my arm to her): Pinch me. I am real. I will be their real mom.
Niece (brief pause while she thinks hard): No, will they know you're not the one who gave birth to them!
Me: Yes, they will know. I'll be their real mom, and they will know that they have a birth mom, and hopefully they will even know her.
So? How do you think I handled it? I'd especially like the opinions of other people in the adoptive world. This is not the first time she's sprung a conversation like this on me, and somehow I don't think it'll be the last.