Friday, July 20, 2012

Future Thinking


This is something that is on my mind a lot.  Or I should say, I’ve become aware of how much Hubby & I do this.  I often hear Hubby saying “When we have a different house, when our finances are under control, when this or that.”  I myself am often thinking “When we have a baby, When we live in town, When this or that”.  I’ve realized that this way of living in the future doesn’t allow one to live in the present very much.   For those of us who have tried for children for years, or still are, or who are waiting, waiting, waiting for an adoption, I think it is important to remember there are a lot of good things right here in the present that we don’t want to miss out on or take for granted. 

I don’t try and think pessimistically and say, “Oh, such-and-such future event might never happen”, because that is a pretty discouraging way of living.  I am still trying to keep my hopes up (rest assured, that doesn’t always work) and I still dream about and plan for the future, but I am trying not to live in the future.

“Set your way of life without money-loving,
BEING SATISFIED WITH PRESENT THINGS;
for He [God] has said,
“Not I will leave you, not ever!
Nor I will not forsake you, not ever!”
Hebrews 13:5

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not;
but remember that what you now have
was once among the things you only hoped for.”
Epicurus

8 comments:

  1. Love it!!! It is hard to stay present sometime but it's important so thank you for the reminder!

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  2. You are so right, it's definitely hard to stay in the present. I'm not sure I've ever lived in it. Half the time I'm not even aware though...I should make the effort like you!

    ICLW #27

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  3. Esperanza wrote something about this just the other day, and it's been on my mind, too ... so true that it's hard to stay in the present, and yet, sometimes we're so future focused that we don't build the foundation for the future on anything in the now. Thanks for this reminder, and for visiting!

    Sending thoughts and prayers for every step forward in the adoption process for you ...

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  4. This is so very true. Thank you for the reminder.

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  5. Thank you for the reminder. I wish you the very best.

    An ICLW Visit from #63
    liddy @ the unfair struggle (mfi, speedskating, 1st 2ww)

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  6. Hi from ICLW. Those are two great quotes! And so true. I'm very guilty of being so focused on the future that I forget to enjoy the here and now. Thanks for the reminder...and wishing you the best and fastest route to your little miracle!

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  7. I struggle with this all the time! I'm always thinking "when we have kids, we'll such-and-such." There must be some kind of balance between recognizing what we have and also allowing ourselves to daydream a bit, right?

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  8. Sometimes I spend my time dreaming away of "when . . .", other times I actually keep myself too grounded in the now and don't think of future plans and the ramifications of my current actions.

    It is a balance.

    Good luck with the adoption process (from a fellow Canadian girl).

    ICLW #33

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